My first week back home I received a priceless gift in Dr. Hamilton; a brilliant, gifted master in the healing of trauma through Developmental Needs Meeting Strategies and EMDR. In my nearly three years with Dr. Hamilton, I formed a potent foundation of real adult resources within myself for me to constantly draw upon. I have adult nurturing skills, adult protective skills and a clear core spiritual self which puts the source of my healing within myself, away from involving others which distances me from codependence. By focusing on my recovering adult self of today and meeting the unmet needs of my wounded little boys in real time, I am re-parenting my self one snapshot at a time, literally healing many major wounds from my childhood. This healing allows me to progress in the healthy development I didn’t get from my biological parents so many years ago.
I have closed my eyes and seen back in time: weeks, months, years, decades; back to when I was very young, at my conception and then before I even existed in this world. I was pure light and energy then and so my goodness springs from that spiritual purity. Internalizing my sense that I am clean and valuable without earning it frees me from relying on others to provide my sense of self and worth. There is a clear boundary between myself and others, creating safety and peace for me, empowering me the find highest and best for me.
I really believe in the laws of attraction and somehow at the depths of my descent into hell the universe provided me with people who were capable of helping me find my way. But only if I was willing to do the difficult and painful work.
The Meadows was my first awakening to light; the first genuine look at my life and my counselors there were adept at bringing it all to the surface while pointing me in the direction of long term recovery.
My psychologist, Dr. Jordan Hamilton, could not have been a better match. He gently, firmly and tenaciously led me to the roots of my self and my pain and back through to a goal that most therapists do not do: healing and beyond. His agenda was not perpetual 50 minute rap sessions that ended with more questions and a vague flicker of hope, but rather repairing the damage to the fabric of my life, one mosaic patch after the other. Each time we met was action and tangible progress.
Developmental Needs Meeting Strategy is just that: meeting my needs which were not met before, allowing me to develop into wholeness and move beyond the roadblocks of trauma and resulting dysfunction. He is an expert in DNMS and EMDR protocol and I am eternally grateful for his intuition, keen insight, sensitivity and sheer brilliance.